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September 27, 2009

When We Struggle…

Filed under: Message,Sharing — campusalive @ 10:12 pm

A few days ago I was watching “Fireproof”, a movie about a man who struggles to save a burning marriage and discovers God’s love along the way (You all should go and get the movie!). There was a scene that struck me so much, as a guy, that it has changed my perspective of the very issue of pornography. I’m here to give a fresh insight, which I hope may help you.

In this scene, the main character is sitting at his desktop computer. His wife is away at work and not due to come home yet. He’s surfing some websites for vacations and boats, planning a getaway for the two of them I suppose, when suddenly a pop-up appears of a girl’s face and in large red letters, “Wanna See Me?” Our main character stares at it for a few seconds (relating here?), then looks away, then looks back, then looks at his wife’s photo next to the computer, then looks back AGAIN. He gets up, walks away, then turns around again. And looks at the icon. Should he click it? Then, with an exasperated sigh, he declares, “WHY IS THIS SO HARD?”

Indeed, why is it so hard, guys? I have to admit, that I myself struggled terribly with it before. And who doesn’t, when so much of our lives are filled with that three-letter word? Music, media, even our jokes are based on such a topic. Now, I’m sure you all have heard that we’re too abstain from sex before marriage, not to go beyond first base in our relationships, etc. But why do so many people fail? Why do even Christians fail?

For one thing, being a Christian doesn’t make you immune from temptations. In fact, sometimes more temptations come your way when the evil one wants to bring you down. So what is our solution? Here’s what happens in the movie.

In the next scene, the man is carrying his desktop and monitor out to the backyard. He sets it on a rubbish bin, and then, with a baseball bat, smashes his computer apart (much to the awestruck expressions of his neighbor).

Sometimes we have to root the problem out. Delete all those internet bookmarks, torrents, files and folders; whatever that you always go back to when you’re tempted or weak or bored. Get rid of them. But that’s not enough.

The third scene shows his wife coming back from work. She notices the computer is missing. But what is in its place? There is a vase of flowers and a card, saying “I love you more” alongside her picture (he didn’t smash that one up, if you’re wondering).

“I LOVE YOU MORE”. Guys, here’s what I got from the movie. Think of your future wife. Pornography is unrealistic and overblown. The more of it you get, the more dull you become. Are you going to compromise your future with her? Many years down the road, I want to tell my wife, that I left pornography a long time ago, because I want to love her so much more, and wouldn’t want anything to stand in between us. It’s a long way to marriage, but the promise starts now. I pray you’ll do the same.

Thoughts to Ponder:

Do we love God more, or pornography? Is it worth the few hours of viewing, and the few moments of pleasure, to do something that makes him angry and sad at us? Remember that He is a holy God, a God who doesn’t condone sin. In all of this, we really need His grace, because without it, we’re all fallen. It is by grace that we gain victory, because of what Jesus did when He bore our sins and made us righteous before God. Inside, we’re fighting a war.

But God sees you and me, as his children, and as it says in:

1 Corinthians 10:13 “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so you can endure.”

Further reading: Romans 7, 8


  1. Hey, I found your blog in a new directory of blogs. I dont know how your blog came up, must have been a typo, anyway cool blog, I bookmarked you. :)

    Comment by DennisVega — October 1, 2009 @ 1:36 am

  2. what a great site and informative posts, I will add a backlink and bookmark your site. Keep up the good work! :)

    Comment by RobD — October 7, 2009 @ 4:32 am

  3. Your blog is so informative … ..I just bookmarked you….keep up the good work!!!! :)

    Comment by RobD — October 7, 2009 @ 5:31 am

  4. i like the line, I love you more. btw, may i know who wrote this post? nic?

    Comment by steffie tan — October 8, 2009 @ 6:07 pm

  5. Larry wrote that post. :)

    Comment by Nicole — October 9, 2009 @ 1:25 am

  6. guessed it. so larryish.. btw, i may give u a testimony..

    Comment by steffie tan — October 9, 2009 @ 11:54 pm

  7. I think it would be okay. Haha. :)

    Comment by Nicole — October 11, 2009 @ 7:55 am

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